Being engaged and planning a wedding has been one joyful, emotional, exhausting and action-packed rollercoaster! Some days I love the thought of a big day filled with our favourite people, and other days I just want to run off and get hitched all by ourselves!
I haven’t said much about wedding planning on these pages, so I thought I’d sum up a few things I’ve found whilst prepping for such a big event…
01. It’s a mammoth task. I’ve said before that I didn’t really give my wedding day much thought until I got engaged, and it was only when I got started planning (like, two hours after Jordan proposed) that I realised there were so many elements to a wedding.
I haven’t been to many weddings (three at last count), so maybe that’s why I’m slightly uneducated when it comes to favours, venues, lighting, flowers and catering… oh my, it’s a whole ‘nother world!
02. I’m a laidback gal. I’ve always been quite a casual person when it comes to, well everything really! But I’ve definitely got to know myself a bit better during the wedding planning process.
A lot of things I thought would be important to me have been met with indifference; I want a nice day for us and our loved ones, but the finer details aren’t what matter to me.
In all honestly, I really didn’t know what I would be like when it came to my wedding (I probably have the potential to be a bridezilla, who knows) so finding out I’m chill af about it all has been a relief!
03. It’s hard to keep it intimate. If you’ve had a wedding with under twenty guests, hats off to you! It is almost impossible. I’d say the guest list has been the trickiest part of planning a wedding. We seem to have a small group of really close friends, and then a bigger extended group that maybe we’ve known for a longer time… and don’t even get me started on family! It feels like you either have 4 people there, or 40000. Seriously, I’m one step away from inviting our postman.
04. I had no idea where to even start with a dress! Aaaand I still don’t – I change my mind every day about what kind of gown I want. I think this is made more difficult by the fact that I really want quite a boho, casual dress for the day! It’s been quite a tricky mission, but I feel like I’m making progress… fingers crossed, because at this point anything white and frilly is appealing.
05. The cost makes me cry a little. Actually, let’s not go there… I’m not ready to talk about it.
06. Planning comes in waves. I will truly go weeks without lifting a finger when it comes to wedding planning, and then suddenly I’ll get an intense burst of (panic-driven) motivation that sees me tick off entire to-do lists in a few hours. Okay, so maybe I’m like this with everything.
07. It brings up a lot of feels. Planning a wedding without any immediate family in the same country (or even hemisphere) as me has been really difficult. I so wish I could speak to my mum or gran about it all, but the 13hour time difference makes things so hard. I spent the first couple of months feeling so down about not being able to have my family with me as I plan. I feel like everyone else gets to make such a big life event out of all the wedding milestones, but for me it’s just the two of us planning it on our own.
Saying that, I’ve managed to see the positives in this and we’re making our own traditions as we go!
08. You can tailor a wedding to suit you. Some girls dream about a big wedding, and some girls want something small – both are totally fine, and I learnt quickly that it’s okay to do what you want to do. I’m somewhere in the middle, so we’ve been making it up as we go along. I don’t want to walk down an aisle, or have too much attention on me on the day, but I do want a fun day full of love (and cake) – so we’re doing just that!
09. It feels so incredibly exciting! Sometimes I feel like I’m going to burst with excitement and love and happiness when I think about it all. Not even just the wedding day, but the lead-up to it too. Having most of our favourite people in one place, planning a honeymoon, drinking entire bottles of champagne… oh my god, cake tasting!! I hadn’t even considered that. It just feels like the most magical time ever.
10. I just want to be married to him. I’ve met my absolute dream guy and I’m beyond excited to start a new chapter in our lives. It’s seriously such a happy, lovey time, I don’t think I’ve ever felt as settled and content as I have in these last few months. Roll on being a Mrs!
Wedding planning. It is what you make of it. Is anyone else going through these thoughts right now? Should we start a champagne-fuelled support group?