22 Nov 2014 53 comments

5 Things: Being a Yes Person.

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I have to admit that I’m a bit of a homebody, not that there’s anything wrong with that, as I do tend to prefer staying in on my lonesome (cat in one hand, pizza slice in the other). I came to realise that I should be jumping at more opportunities and saying yes a whole lot more…

I’m a month shy of my 24th birthday – some will think that sounds old, most will laugh at how young it is – but I guess I got to the point where I was thinking maybe I should be doing more with myself – after all, they do say ‘life begins at the end of your comfort zone’!
When I say ‘doing more’ I mean more adventurous activities, not just going out in town or seeing my friends (I should do these less haha), or at least doing more that is challenging in some way – with a story to tell. Working at home puts me in my own little bubble and it can be hard to truly escape the place, so I’ve made up my mind to start doing more – seeing places I’ve always wanted to see and just generally making more of the moment. So here’s a few pointers I’ve found have helped…

Just Do It
Is that the Nike slogan? Will I be sued? Anyway, one thing I’ve found that works for me is to act on impulse and do it before I have a chance to think things over. In the last month or so I have booked flights to Berlin, Iceland and New York, and tickets to see one of my all-time favourite bands, Foo Fighters!
I’m no stranger to travelling or seeing shows, but spending chunks of money like that have me a bit nervous! One thing I’ve found is that I’ve become quite materialistic in the last year, with most of my money going on buying things (mostly for our new flat) rather than experiences. I had to get out of this mindset that money handed over meant goods in my hand right then, so I just went for it and didn’t look back.

Be A Bit Selfish
I’m all for being selfish, as everyone says the years in your 20s are for thinking of yourself. If there’s something you’ve always wanted to do, why waste any more time thinking about it? Recently I’ve really wanted to get back in to running, and also learn to ski – luckily my boyfriend is a willing participant in all my mad ideas (bar the running so I go it alone), but I think you have to be vocal with your dreams. If you also have these grand schemes, I say go for it – either alone or ask a flatmate, brother or friend to come along for the ride. My brother had no one to go rockclimbing with a couple of years ago and found a like-minded person on Gumtree (truly), and they’re still good friends – having recently travelled New Zealand together. I’m not sure I could do that, but it made me laugh.

Plan Ahead
I find that my dreams often come at a high price (ahem, New York) so I’ve taken to booking things well in advance to lessen the blow. I’m a wizz at finding cheap flights, so I’m now making plans to see places I’ve never been to before, but I’ve had to also face my fear of planning in advance. I’m not sure why I don’t like this, it just makes me freak out a little! What if something comes up and I’m meant to be going away? Or, more likely, Jordan’s away on tour.
There’s no way to know but I guess I’ll just have to deal with anything that comes my way when it happens. Yay for a carefree attitude!

Challenge Yourself
I started to think recently that I didn’t really know my limits, because I rarely push myself. Little things like the skiing – what if I’m a champion on the slopes and I’ll never know? Hilarious. However unlikely that is, I do think I need to try harder with these things. Even just with everyday things like YouTube videos, meeting new people, promoting myself – could I be doing a better job? Almost certainly!
I mentioned a little while ago that I’ve started setting myself little challenges here and there, which is a great way to keep you motivated and on the right track. Even if it’s little things like ‘plan 2 new adventures’ or ‘learn a sentence in French’ – yep, another one of my big ideas. Learn French! I crack myself up.

Make a Bucket-List
Okay, a shortened, less dramatic version of a bucket-list – even just a mental note of things you want to complete in the next year. Making lists is just so calming and getting everything out on paper means you’ll feel more in control of things.
I have little things like learning to sew, staining the floorboards in our flat or just reorganising my office. Then bigger tasks like going to see all my family in New Zealand or writing a novel. It’s all worth doing, and one day I hope to have achieved them!

Life has been pretty good since I started saying yes more – even just to events like the MTV EMAs, old Kate would never have gone but new Kate loved the experience! I think you have to be impulsive yet have your head screwed on, and just go for it!

Have you got any tips for us homebodies?

  • This was such a good post – I definitely need to start saying yes more, and doing more things and leaving my comfort zone a little bit. Oh, and the Foo Fighters are amazing live! I saw them a few years back and they definitely stand out when I look back at the bands i’ve seen x

    • It’s SO easy to say yes to pyjamas but I actually want to do more and as you say, leave my comfort zone! Ah I can’t wait, it’s at the end of June but I’m already excited xx

  • V.

    Great post! 🙂
    I recently started working from home as well. Since it’s just the beginning, I feel great about it, but I already think ahead: what if I get bored? What if I feel isolated in my own bubble after a time? How can I get out more?
    Not every thing you say applies to my situation, but it’s a good idea to start thinking about how to get out of my own comfort zone.

    • I know, I’ve been doing it for two years now and I love it, but sometimes my friends come and work beside me because they’re in the same boat! I get more done on my own though… x

  • Emma.

    Good for you! This was a good read, I also need a kick up the bum when it comes to actually going out and doing things. I really want to get more in to my blog and maybe try youtube eventually, but I’m still in Uni so I keep putting it off till I finish. No more!! Thanks, Kate 🙂

  • Lou

    Loved reading this post. It was like stepping into my own head!
    I wrote recently about creating a bucket list. I realised the things in life you remember aren’t ‘THOSE’ boots you owned one year or the great lipstick you once tried but instead the adventures you had. You’ll always remember ‘THAT’ holiday and all the crazy things you did.
    Writing my bucket list was to make sure I bought memorable experiences and didn’t waste my money on the ‘must-have’ accessory of the season. I’d thank myself in the long run!

    It’s actually one of the reasons I started writing a lifestyle blog – to make sure I had stuff to write about! No one wants to read a blog about that day I spent indoors, eating pizza and watching the whole series of House in a week (although that is what I did this week…don’t judge!)

    I love your other tips too. I’m always constantly worried about booking in advance – What if we aren’t together then?! What if I can’t afford spending money what it get here? What if work is super busy? What if, what if, what if.
    The truth of it is, all that doesn’t matter. Like you said, you’ll deal with it when it arises. Till then…you’ve got something great to look forward to!

    Also love the bit about being selfish, it’s so easy to think of everyone else and forget to live your own life. If you can’t do that in your twenties, when can you?!

    Now, I’m going to get off my bum and do something with my day!

    Thanks for sharing the post

    xxxx
    naturallybeige.com

    (p.s. if you did want to read my post, you can find it here – naturallybeige.com/2014/10/23/buying-experiences-my-bucket-list/)

  • Joana Gomes

    This is the exact same thing I’ve been telling myself.

    I need to go out more and do things.

    Like in two weeks I’m going to Amsterdam for a weekend because one day I decided it was time I did more. My bucket list is basically a travel wishlist though ahah

    When You Dream Big

  • I love this post, Kate – it really made me think!
    I’m definitely a homebody but I recently booked a trip to Canada (for a month today – eeeeek!) and although I hate flying or any kind of travel, I just thought ‘sod it, I can’t miss this opportunity’.
    A tip from me would be to think to yourself “I have so many years ahead of me to just sit on the sofa, Starbucks in one hand, Netflix on my lap – I’m going to spend one of those days next week doing something different.” I think then you’ll realise you actually enjoy doing things outside of your house (comfort zone) and eventually you’ll ditch the Starbucks and grab the skis (so to speak!)
    🙂 Daniela xo | danielascribbles.co.uk

  • I totally get what you are saying as I am trying to do the same. I think only good things come out of it. As they say: Great things never came from comfort zones. I think you are doing an awsm job of expanding your horizons 🙂

  • Lisa Voigt

    If you do go visit your family in NZ, can I be your hand luggage? I can fit under the seat. 😀

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  • The second I read “I’m a bit of a homebody”, I knew I had to read the rest of this post. I love staying at home and I’ve been told I’m not adventurous enough. Your first point really struck me – I love travelling but I’ve been spending a lot of money on clothes/makeup/eating out when I should be saving for an experience rather than a thing (if that makes sense).

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  • Tasha Steel

    Berlin is such an amazing city, you’ll love it! I really wanna go to Iceland and visit New York too. I’m such a homebody too, really need to challenge myself and get out there. Great to know I’m not alone!

    http://www.hello-freckles.com x

  • I deffo need to make a list and start thinking about me for a change. xox

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  • darjeeling tea leaves

    I really often think I should just be a little less cautios and jump right into things instead of thinking them over and deciding against them. I will usually regret that anyway. I tend to always turn down opportunities and I think I might have to change that..

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  • Great tips. I’m totally trying to be more of a yes and new, more out there me – so far, it’s so fun!

    Sophie x

  • Roseanna

    Great post, I agree. In our twenties you have to be a yes person to risk getting the chance to have a ‘living in the moment’moment!.

    xxx

    http://roseannanna.wordpress.com/

  • Great, great post.

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  • I love this post! x

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  • Robyn

    Love the tip about being a bit selfish! I have a habit of doing things always because I dont want to upset anyone, but sometimes its really nice to just do what you want to do! Great post 🙂

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  • I’ve definitely been trying to be more of a ‘yes woman’ lately and I’m constantly busy! But at the same time it really is a lot of fun 🙂

    hellomissjordan.blogspot.co.uk xx

  • Basia Biskupiak

    How about a post on finding cheap flights, Kate? Great post! How did you get to be so smart?

  • I love this post, I decided to do more this year and go out and do things. It’s made such a difference to who I am too! It’s nice to get out there and experience new things outside your comfort zone. And even nicer when you have someone to go do it with you too. I booked New York at the start of summer and go in 3 weeks, so excited 🙂 x

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  • I definitely sympathize, I’m very much ‘i wish i could so such and such’ and don’t or find a cop-out. I’ve said yes to opportunities becuase in the long rong it’s going to be great to look back on, and I really want to get back into learning Italian and planning trips abroad or I’ll never go!

    Lauren x

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  • I agree with you here, ironically me and my other half were talking about ‘being selfish’ and that our 20’s are our time, to do things like go on holidays, day trips and meals because at some point in the future when we have a family they will come first instead. So I definitely agree to being more of a ‘yes’ woman and can’t wait to see your travels! x
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  • Beautiful post! I love this little list and will keep it in the back of my mind to stay motivated. Thank you!

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  • Amalie

    Such a good idea to stay motivated xx.

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  • emily couture

    great tips and lovely post 🙂

    emily xx

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  • Lovely post! I definitely agree with the first point about just doing it. I’ve always been the type to stay well within my comfort zone but I’ve been working on it and just booked to move to Australia for 8 months which I’m so excited about!

    http://www.mywonderbox.wordpress.com

  • rebekah maryx

    Im such a home body thanks for this need to say yes too!

    rebekahmaryx.blogspot.co.uk

  • This was a much needed kick up the bum! I turn down so many things and every time I do it pushes me further away from who, and what, I love, and makes it even harder to say yes the next time!

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  • I’m such a homebody too! My last great act of heroics was when I quit my day job to start working freelance earlier this year. I think I might start setting myself daily goals, weekly, monthly and yearly – small victories can be just as powerful as big ones!

    Drea xo
    Drea’s Junkyard

  • This was such a nice post to read as I’m like this at times too! Saying yes to more opportunities is so important and definitely something I need to work on.

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  • Loved this post Kate! I think a lot of us bloggers are also home bodies. It’s a good reminder to say yes to other things sometimes. Thanks for sharing 🙂

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  • This is a great post, I definitely see a lot of myself in what you’ve written. Thanks for the inspiration to say yes once in a while!

    Tessa / Bramble & Thorn

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  • I’m definitely a homebody, but with some things I tend to force myself to do them even if they scare me (like moving abroad to go to uni). However, in most ways I’m still very cautious and unadventurous. This is such an inspiring post though. Loved reading it! You have so many interesting things going on 🙂

    xx Mimmi, Muted Mornings

  • Great post and very sage advice! Routine is great in some ways but totally boring in others and I’d love for hubby and I to switch things up a little sometimes instead of doing the same old stuff week in, week out. I totally get what you mean about planning in advance. I’m an utter control freak so I like to plan but hubby is a contractor so we never know for sure when he might find himself temporarily out of work and that uncertainty means we never do actually plan anything! But no, next year I’m determined that by hook or by crook we’re going to actually do some of the things we keep saying we want to!

  • Thebeautyspot

    Yes! That is so true , i feel the same , i need to be more adventurous and less scared of doing things i want to do , loved this post:) x

    thebeautyspot-5.blogspot.co.uk

  • Such a great post. I’m an introvert and often prefer the comforts of home to going out and “exploring.” I’m a rather anxious person, so it takes some prodding for me to leave and go on adventures (be it big or small).

    Also, I truly hope that you enjoy your trip to New York. It will be an exciting experience. 🙂

  • Great post! I have to challenge myself more next year, I want to learn skiing too 🙂

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  • Tatjana

    Ahhh im so happy you are coming to my city!! would love to meet up in Berlin and show you around! You seem like such a cool chick!

    Tatjana

  • I LOVE this post! I’m definitely a homebody too (something I used to be ashamed of, but now I love), but I do want to challenge myself to get out more and experience some new things. I’d love to start jogging again, but I’m always so self-conscious of being out by myself. Maybe a little pep talk beforehand will help. 🙂

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  • Kayleigh Kirby

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    The black & blue adventure is an amazing experience. Highly recommend this 🙂

  • Emma and Emily

    Great post Kate! Will be making a bucket list asap!

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  • I’m like you, I’m a home body and am hesitant to do things. I always manage to talk myself out of things. I should start doing things before I over analyse and push myself out of my comfort zone. Great post x

    Ashley | http://artedellamoda.blogspot.co.nz/

  • Mary Lyndall

    I am also a homebody, but this made me realize that I can say yes to more things. I can do the things I have always wanted to do. Thank you!
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  • I love this. I often fall into similar traps, just following the path of least resistance. The last month or so though, I’ve really tried to take steps to branch out. Some one I don’t know wants to get coffee? Why not. Last minute road trip for my weekend off? Probably should. The only way to get out of the rut is just to do things, so I’m just going for it.

  • Great ideas, I can certainly relate to everything you’ve written here, it’s a good reminder!
    Hannah x
    Hanniemc.co.uk

  • NoOvernightGuests

    I love these ideas!